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DON'T KILL A FUTURE FOR YOUR DIRTY HABITS, LET ME HAVE MY RIGHTS.......pen Not penis

NO TO UNDERAGE MARRIAGE NOW

Amidst the crisis situations in Nigeria, it is underage marriage that seems more pressing for debate by the Nigerian lawmakers; it has only shown that the lawmakers are obviously their lives to the fullest at the expense of the Nigerian citizenry. Lawmakers are paid to provide development but our present lawmakers have not ceased to provide misery of every kind. This is the case of supporting underage marriage; the adverse effects of this motion have been ignored with major thought given only to the satisfaction of man in the relationship.

Facts have it that child brides experience a higher incidence of domestic violence, marital abuse (including physical, sexual or psychological abuse) and abandonment. Underage marriage exposes the girl-child to maternal mortality and infant mortality rate; they are more likely to die in childbirth and they face the risk of contracting HIV. Some of them are usually within between age 7 and 8 and averagely below 15.

In some of the poorest countries, these girls are readied for early marriage and prevented from attending schools like male counterparts who eventually grow up to become men like these senators, idly passing bills that are adverse. They are also forced to drop out of school after marriage or marriages. It should also be evident that child brides are more likely to come from a poor family which should be a pointer that poverty is prevalent in Nigeria. Most of the husbands could be poor and once married, child brides are more likely to continue living in poverty.

If some people say that their religion supports underage marriage, then it leaves questionable thoughts especially when one of its effects could be death for the girl-child. I believe all religions support the good and wellbeing of every human being so I think people are using religion to support their unhealthy habits which is inexcusable.

 NO TO UNDERAGE MARRIAGE, A GIRL HAS ALL THE RIGHTS TO LIFE AND EDUCATION NOT PENIS

Fight against it

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Vengeful persuasion

Policemen attached to Adeniji Adele division have arrested a 22-year-old man in Lagos who allegedly kidnapped and raped a student of the University of Lagos, UNILAG, Akoka, for turning down his advances.

The suspect, Babajide Bashorun, was also alleged to have taken nude shots of his victim (names withheld) and pasted them on the internet with her real name, school, department and age.

The victim with bruises

But the suspect claimed that the lady was his girlfriend. He admitted to have taken her nude pictures and gave them to his friends whose identities he gave as Aje Mayowa and Babajide Ademuyiwa, both final year students of Architecture also of UNILAG.

The incident, as gathered, occurred two months ago at 1, Ajose Street,  Enu-Owa area of Lagos Island.  But the female undergraduate was silent over the matter until her relations abroad who stumbled on the nude pictures on the internet contacted her mother in Nigeria, last week.

The victim narrated that the incident occurred on her way home from school for a weekend visit. She said that Babajide abducted her at the bus stop, dragged her into a car whose driver was an unknown face. On arrival at the suspect’s place, Babajide started beating her thereafter he and his friend raped her. The victim said that pictures were taken of her while bleeding; she claimed that he continued the beating when she made attempt to cover her face while he was taking the pictures. She escaped when she was left alone in the room; she also couldn’t tell anyone even her family members because Babajide had threatened to kill her if she did.

On his part, Babjide claimed that the undergraduate was his girlfriend, adding that they only had a fight on that fateful day, which had been resolved. He claimed that the victim had requested for money to buy an IPad which cost over N100,000. Because of his love for her, he managed to raise N70,000, insisting that he had advised her to stop some of her attitude which weren’t reasonable .

A fight ensued during the argument and he hit her and then took pictures of her and sent the pictures to his friends although he didn’t tell them to paste the pictures on the internet.

Police sources hinted that efforts were on to arrest Mayowa and Ademuyiwa had been alleged to have pasted the victim’s nude pictures on the internet, while  Babajide had been charged to court  for kidnapping, rape, conspiracy, attempt to commit murder, indecent assault, and assault occasioning harm.

Mom! Dad! I think I might be pregnant……..

With recent news of teenagers and young adults putting their lives at risk by hiding pregnancies and doing deliveries without proper healthcare, I think this advice might come handy. Teenagers in secondary schools and universities find themselves in these situations, the deed has been done; endangering your life and that of the baby might not be next right action.

Telling your parents; remember they are your parents and they love you.  Sure, it’s a difficult thing to tell them but rather than risk your life its best you tell them first. First rule is you can never tell how they will react…

Learning that you’re pregnant might leave you confused, scared, or shocked by the news. You’re thinking your parents will kill you (literally) but of course since they love you and think you are still a child yourself. No matter how they will receive this information, it is important you tell them first.

Do your homework by knowing and understanding your parents' personalities i.e. how they react to issues; some are more emotional, more easily stressed out, more likely to get upset or angry, to yell or cry, or express themselves loudly. You also need to understand that it will be difficult news for them to receive; think about how their reactions to other situations although you can never guess what their exact response will be.

Mr. B (name withheld) is a parent who had been in a similar situation. He said “the day my girl confirmed to me she was pregnant; I felt my world crumbling around me. I didn’t even know she had a boyfriend or that she was sleeping with someone. It was her mother who had been acting strange and sick for days that eventually broke the news to me, I also immediately became sick. I was calm outside but inside my body system, a storm was raging and I couldn’t accept the news initially. I ignored her for days, technically shut her out of my world while I process the news”

This is not a guaranteed reaction for all parents but some parents can react like this initially, so prepare yourself for different reactions depending on their temperament. Explain what happened, talk with them; do not yell or fight their objections as this might escalate the problem.

Afraid of breaking the news in person? Then you can write them a letter, explaining what happened, pleading your case and sharing your decision with them. You could also break the news to one parent and let them talk to each other about the situation.

Afraid of telling them alone? You could speak to one of their closest but liberal best friends, an adult they have their best friend who is also a close friend of the family but who isn’t judgmental about life issues and situations. They could help in telling your news but explain yourself including your decision to this best friend. It is also important to speak to the father of your child, he might provide some backing if you plan to tell your parents in person which you could also reciprocate for him when he breaks the news to his own parents.

Be aware that your health and that of the baby is important as babies born to teen mothers usually tend to have a low birth weight, and other life threatening complications like anemia, high blood pressure and even fetal death. Seek all necessary advice healthcare workers, family and friends for advice about how to deal with pregnancy and how to keep your baby healthy.

It sure can be a scary situation to be a teenage mother but you have to face the reality and deal with the situation. A lot of duties and priorities are to be considered to welcome a wonderful miracle into your life.

Teenage pregnancy is a big problem in most communities throughout Nigeria

It is one of the key reasons why girls drop out of school at primary and secondary level. Its effect can be devastating as it destroys the dreams of all parties involved; these include parents, caregivers, guardians, adolescents and the young mothers. A suppose-to-be-happy phenomenon (pregnancy) therefore turns sour; it is however important that parties involved have informed knowledge for critical decision-taking when the deed is done.

One of the thematic areas of Initiative for young daughters of Africa addresses the teenage pregnancy prevention for students and management for pregnant teenagers.